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一剪梅: 回 "一个短片,让你想归家"
生活杂谈 | 2012年11月13日 07:40 / 作者:一剪梅
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Very impressive! Love the picture and the sound track!
 
I'm not sure what kind of person I would become if I didn't come to USA 20+ years ago. I maybe a rich but corrupted merchant or professor; maybe a poor loser; If I'm rich, I may be too busy corrupting officials or being corrupted to keep up with my business circle, have very little time to be with my parents. If I'm poor, I will have lots of time to be with my parents but they may not want to see me around that much 游手好闲 .
 
I still prefer my life here much much better. When I visit my parents once a year for 3 or 4 weeks, I'm 100% with them with almost 0 distraction.
 
Reality is much more bleak than what you can see from this grossly glorified short movie.
 
I believe what most Chinese really miss China is the superior feeling: 人上人.
 
Those people should never come to the society with most equality and least class structure in the world. You will never find the feeling of being 人上人 unless you're the president, congress men, Hollywwod star, or Bill Gates type of business men.
 
But in China you can easily feel superior: your kids go to better college, your working rank/eductaion degree or rank of your university is one notch higher than the other person; your girl friend/boy friend is a little bit better looking/better educated/better paid than others, your car/apartment/cloth/purse/jewelry/shoes is a little better than others ... All of these can make you feel superior than others and get lots of personal satisfaction. 攀比 is in our blood. Without 攀比, without envy or jealousy from people around us, many Chinese feel pointless to achive or aquire that much stuff. For those people, providing a high living standard for their family, pursuing happiness for their family is not the primary driving force. Making people envy their success is. They need audience for their life performance. Even after 20 years living in this free country, some of us still couldn't get rid of this in-born craving for envy and jealousy. For thousand of years in China, the standard is: the more people envy us, the more people kissing up to us, the more people kowtou to us (physically or mentally), the more successful we feel. Their success doesn't come within their heart's contentment, doesn't come from watching their family enjoying a happy daily life. It comes from the reaction and treatment they get from other people, and most of those people are completely irrelevent to them or their family.  



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一剪梅 发布于 2012-11-13 14:43 2 楼#
非常赞同一楼的观点。好奇心,求知欲,是科技创新的最大动力,对人类苦难与幸福的终极关怀是人文文学创新的最大动力。对利益贪的无厌的追求是创造商业奇迹的最大动力。
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Zorro 发布于 2012-11-13 12:01 1 楼#
心理学上关于人的动力有内在动力Intrinsic和外在动力Extrinsic两种。中国人很多是靠外在动力,比如跟他人比钱,学位,房子啦,考虑面子啦,在乎他人怎么说啦。这是攀比和人上人的根源。<br> &nbsp;<br> 这种外在动力可以让人混得不错,但很少出类拔萃。中国人普遍的基础训练上乘,但很少顶尖的人士,原因之一是钱学位房子到手就心满意足了。只有那些对知识有发自内心的热爱的人才能登顶。<br>
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